Do you have a hard time saying no to others, no matter how outrageous their requests If so, you might be a chronic people pleaser Unfortunately, because we live in a society that praises putting the needs of others before ourselves, it can be difficult to break this bad habit And while thinking of others is always commendable, there is a fine line between sacrifice and senseless approval seeking In The Need to Please, a leading mindfulness expert and psychotherapist provides compassionate, mindfulness based techniques that will help chronic people pleasers like you address and overcome your fears of failure, inappropriate self sacrificing, loss of personal identity, and voracious need of approval In addition, you will learn to put an end to the codependent behaviors that lie at the heart of being a people pleaser Change is hardespecially when it means going against years of social conditioning But if youre ready to Just Say No, to others demands and start saying, Yes to your own needs, this book can help You can find out about these mindfulness techniques at www.livingmindfully.org....
|Title||:||The Need to Please: Mindfulness Skills to Gain Freedom from People Pleasing and Approval Seeking|
|Publisher||:||New Harbinger Publications 1 edition October 1, 2013|
|Number of Pages||:||200 pages|
|File Size||:||885 KB|
|Status||:||Available For Download|
|Last checked||:||21 Minutes ago!|
The Need to Please: Mindfulness Skills to Gain Freedom from People Pleasing and Approval Seeking Reviews
Micki Fine's book is written with kindness, compassion and a true desire to help those caught in the web of chronic people pleasing.She helps the reader examine and understand why we develop this behavior in the first place and offers many practices, based in Mindfulness, to help break the cycle. The point is not to stop caring for and pleasing others, but to do so with self-awareness rather than self-sacrifice.
For many women, this will be an a-ha! book. The book is easy to read and written so that you can reflect on each section. If you are looking for a way to find balance and ways to find what truly matters to you, this book is a helpful resource. So many of us run around saying yes to everyone from bosses to family to friends that we don't have time or energy left to figure out how we can live a mindful and meaningful life. Highly recommended!
The first chapter on mindfulness found me a little impatient: I wanted to get to the description and causes of people pleasing, though I've already known them for some time, and knowledge doesn't seem to have helped. But practicing mindfulness, it turns out, does! It's not an overnight matter to change go-to patterns of a lifetime, but I do notice some progress already and plan to keep up the practice. Fine names people pleasing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with clarity, which helps motivate me to treat them as an illness.
Micki Fine is able to write with great clarity and simplicity. Mindfulness can be a difficult concept to understand. This is the best book I have read on how to use Mindfulness Practices to bring greater joy and ease.
Great book! Practical material and presented in a logical way.
I don't know if I really found anything new in here. Maybe I am just burned out from all the self help books out there. It's not terrible and worth a read if you are digging around for information on self help from all different sources. I did like the chapter "Connecting with Your Inner Loveliness" thought it was nice to remind ones self that it's not selfish do do things for yourself and not to worry about not helping others enough.