A world renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place She leads readers through six easy to navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they re in and what it means Is it a See if affair Ejector seat affair Distraction affair Unmet needs affair Panic affair Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as What am I missing in my marriage How do I decide between two people when it s like comparing an apple to an orange How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair....
|Title||:||When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships|
|Publisher||:||St Martin s Griffin F First Paperback Edition Used edition July 21, 2009|
|Number of Pages||:||272 pages|
|File Size||:||760 KB|
|Status||:||Available For Download|
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When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships Reviews
I’m a chaplain and I hear these horror stories of bad marriages every day. I love this book. She is so straightforward. I wish she could also repackage it for single folks that are dating. There is just very practical advice on will this relationship work or not. My favorite chapter was on the 5 ingredients to chemistry and if you don’t have all 5 your relationship will not last. I love practical wisdom. It’s not a fix your broken marriage book it’s a who do you really want to spend your life with book. That may be uncomfortable territory for some folks.
This book is an interesting perspective on those who find themselves in these situations. It may not always tell you want to hear but it does elaborate on the heart-wrenching decisions!
This was very helpful in my situation. I just wish he would read it. I highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with this
I never considered myself to be a bad person, in fact, when found myself in an affair as a married woman, I thought I would go crazy with the situation as I considered myself a "good Christian" who always tried to do the right thing. Thus, when my husband refused to couples therapy with me, I felt that a good book written by an experienced therapist would help me more than going to an expensive session by myself. I wasn't prepared for all the help that this book gave me. I purchased it on the kindle so that I could get it immediately and I read it in two days. It has answered EVERY question I had and it gave me such peace about what I would have to do next. The help I have gotten is worth far more that the cost of this book. It doesn't specifically address my situation as a wife that has been cheated on multiple times but it certainly answered my questions about my own affair. I recommend it to anyone with the tornado in their minds like the one I had before I read this book. Thank you Dr. Kirshenbaum.
Excellent book. Easy to read, informative. Has questions to ask yourself when struggling with choosing between a partner and an affair. I have recommended it to client in therapy and they have loved it too.It gives us a nice base for discussion and reflection. I'd recommend to therapists and clients alike
I think it is a powerful reminder of the power of our words.
While there are a number of good though processes introduced in the book, I think that the main premise of the book is wrong. The author seems to believe that a person in the midst of an affair is capable of objectively looking at both of their relationships and rating them one against the other. I believe that this is highly unlikely (another reviewer likened it to a drug addict being asked to evaluate their choices while they are high.) Her scoring system also assigns little or no "value" the the vows, commitment and history of the existing marriage/relationship.
Okay, so I am going through this situation where my husband had an affair and we are trying to heal from it. I bought a bunch of books. This one seemed promising until I got to where the author tells the unfaithful spouse NOT to tell their spouse if they're having an affair UNLESS they had unprotected sex. I'm sorry, but in order for any relationship to heal and get better is complete honesty. It's a proven fact that you cannot feel love from another person if you are hiding something from them because you don't know "well you say you love me, but if you knew (insert secret here) you wouldn't love me." If you want to save your marriage, you need transparency and honesty. I wouldn't recommend this book to anyone. A good one is "NOT 'just friends" by dr Shirley Glass. It has really helped me and my husband on our road to recovering from infidelity.